Convey it, don’t say it

  • Higher investment (this is “important” because the author took time to compose, edit, and format in a dedicated blogging platform)
  • Higher expectations (this post will be valuable, actionable, or interesting)
  • Higher intention (sharing this content because it will make me a thought leader)
  • This individual has credibility (they are sought after and being asked for their time and thoughts, look at the public reception of their content)
  • This content may or may not be relevant (it wasn’t originally meant for me or the entire world)
  • This individual has been generous (they‘ve trusted us to peak into their world of thought and who they communicate with)
  • This is only a taste (they don’t have time to blog this and you may find the 99% of other offline and private conversations even more interesting)
a poor visualization of what is happening
  • Existing interest (“Ryan has friends”, others noticed, and others asked about it)
  • Existing comfort with the topic (I was candid about it)
  • Implied trust with the modern friend (they receive exactly what a close friend did)
  • Implied appropriate response (modern friend not led to think I just spent three minutes composing a bespoke answer for them and that they need to match it with a great deal of time and energy)
another super high quality diagram




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